Why Do I Cum So Fast?

Premature ejaculation is a common issue. Because it’s so prevalent, a large amount of time has been spent researching its potential causes and risk factors.

Experts aren’t yet precisely aware of why some men reach orgasm faster than others. However, research has revealed a range of potential factors that may play a role in the average amount of time you need to ejaculate during sex.

These include your levels of certain hormones, such as luteinizing hormone (LH), prolactin and thyroid-stimulating hormone (TSH), as well as lower-than-normal levels of the neurotransmitter serotonin, which is thought to regulate ejaculation latency.

Other factors linked to early ejaculation include inflammation or infection in your prostate and/or urethra, as well as psychological factors such as depression, sexual anxiety, guilt about sexual intercourse, chronic stress or a lack of sexual self-confidence.

Unrealistic expectations about a healthy sex life, which could be linked to pornography use, are also thought to potentially play a role in the development of premature ejaculation.

Put simply, there’s no single cause of cumming too fast. Instead, researchers think that a variety of different factors may all play a unique role in your sexual stamina and ability to have sex with your partner without ejaculating too soon.

If you’re concerned that you might have premature ejaculation, your best bet is generally to talk to your healthcare provider or schedule a consultation with a male sexual health specialist.

If appropriate, they’ll be able to diagnose you with premature ejaculation, and they may also be able to single out individual root causes. At the very least, they’ll be able to offer some guidance on how to deal with premature ejaculation.

It’s possible that this advice may include treatment using medication, but there are also plenty of other techniques and approaches at your disposal to help you gain control over your ejaculatory response and last for longer in bed.

How to Not Cum So Fast

Whether you have premature ejaculation or simply want to improve your sexual stamina, there are numerous things that you can do to delay orgasm, prevent ejaculation and last longer when you have sex.

Switch Up Your Condom Game

If you don’t normally use a condom, consider wearing one when you have sex. This can reduce the sensitivity level of your glans (the tip of your penis), which can help to give you more control over your sexual response.

Our Ultra Thin Condoms are designed to offer optimal sensitivity and pleasure, meaning they’re a good choice if you’re used to having sex without a condom.If you already use condoms, try switching to ones that are formulated using numbing ingredients or have a thicker design to further reduce sensitivity.

Just be aware that some numbing agents may cause allergic reactions, meaning it’s a good idea to talk to your healthcare provider before using any type of medicated condom.

Call a Timeout When You Feel Orgasm Approaching

If you’re nearly finished and your partner isn’t even out of the gate, calling for a brief pause can give you a moment to relax and keep from finishing too early.Sometimes referred to as the start-stop technique, a quick mid-session pause is a simple way to stave off rapid ejaculation.The science is mixed on this approach for men with premature ejaculation, and one of the most prominent studies of start-stop (also known as stop-start technique) left numerous unanswered questions about whether it was only beneficial in conjunction with other treatments.But if it works for you, great. To get the best results from this technique, take the time to address your partner’s needs until you feel ready to dive back in. There’s no reason for the show to stop just because you need a break. Get Those Reps in with Pelvic Floor Exercises (Kegels)
One way you might extend your sexual stamina is by working out -- just make sure it’s the right muscle group. Pelvic floor exercises are basically a practice of contracting the muscle you use to hold in urine, training it to be more responsive, and giving yourself the muscle control to hold back if you ever feel like it’s time to hit the brakes on ejaculation. Unlike stop-start exercises, studies have shown that pelvic floor exercises (also known as kegel exercises) can reduce some signs of premature ejaculation, as well as other male sexual health issues such as erectile dysfunction (ED). No major studies have been done on the right technique, however, so you’re just going to have to feel this one out yourself -- don’t pull anything.To get started, try reading our guide to pelvic floor exercises, which explains several exercises that you can perform at home for a stronger, more responsive pelvic floor. Try Premature Ejaculation Wipes and Sprays
Great sex might just require you to add another tool to your utility belt. In addition to keeping a condom or two in your pocket, you may want to consider packing a couple of PE wipes like our Clockstopper Benzocaine Wipes before the big night.Premature ejaculation wipes and sprays work by reducing sensitivity during sex. This can help you to gain more control over the process of reaching orgasm and ejaculating, improving your sexual stamina and overall level of pleasure.Most wipes and sprays contain benzocaine and/or lidocaine, which are topical anesthetics that reduce sensitivity without affecting sexual pleasure.Research shows that anesthetic wipes are often helpful for treating PE. For example, one small study published in the Journal of Urology found that men who used benzocaine wipes displayed improvements in ejaculatory latency time and sexual satisfaction.If wipes aren’t your thing, our Delay Spray for Men, which is formulated with lidocaine for better sexual performance, is also an easy-to-use option that you can apply a few minutes before sex to delay ejaculation and improve your general sexual function.Use The Squeeze Technique
Trying to snatch victory from the jaws of PE? One technique is to simply squeeze the tip of your penis for a few seconds when you feel like you’re about to reach orgasm and ejaculate.This is no joke. In fact, the squeeze technique was pretty much the only clinically recommended behavioral therapy technique for PE until the 1990s, which seems crazy to think about with all of the treatments that are available now.Using the squeeze technique during sex is simple -- just gently squeeze between the glans and shaft of your penis as you feel orgasm approaching. You can also get your partner to do this for you to make the experience more intimate.You may need to try this technique several times to find the right level of pressure to slow down ejaculation without cutting off blood flow or causing injury.Our guide to the squeeze technique for premature ejaculation goes into more detail about how you can use this technique to cum slower and enjoy more satisfying sex.Try Masturbating Before You Have Sex
If exercises or behavioral therapy techniques don’t appear to work for you, another option you may want to try is masturbating before you have sex.The idea behind pre-sex masturbation is to take advantage of your refractory period -- a short period in which you may find it more difficult to reach orgasm and ejaculate again. During this time, you might notice that you can have sex for longer without feeling tempted to cum. Masturbating an hour or two before you plan to have sex may work quite well, but it’s important to get the timing right, as trying this technique too close to the time you’re planning to have sex could result in erectile dysfunction.